Mary Winkler: Wrist Slap in an Amazing Murder Case

Last week’s case was the mysterious disappearance (and presumed murder) of candy heiress Helen Brach. This week’s case takes us to Tennessee where, in 2006, Mary Winkler killed her minister husband with a shotgun blast. The crime may have been straightforward, but the resulting court case was anything but.

Mary and Matthew Winkler

Mary Carol Freeman met Matthew Winkler in 1993 when both were students at Freed-Hardeman University. Freed-Hardeman, in Henderson, Tennessee is a school affiliated with the Church of Christ. Matthew was popular and had charisma; Mary was quiet but displayed a winning smile. The couple married in 1996.

The Winklers shortly before Matthew's murder (AP/Tennessee Bureau of Investigations)
The Winklers shortly before Matthew’s murder (AP/Tennessee Bureau of Investigations)

Ten years later, Matthew was the pulpit pastor of the Fourth Street Church of Christ in Selmer, Tennessee. Selmer is a small town in the southwestern corner of the state and close to the border with Mississippi. Even though small, Selmer is the seat of McNairy County.

Rev. Matthew Winkler
Rev. Matthew Winkler

Murder of Matthew Winkler

On March 22, 2006, Rev. Winkler failed to show up for a Wednesday evening church service. Church members who went to his home to investigate found him dead on the floor of his bedroom. He’d been killed by a shotgun blast to the back that lodged 77 pellets in his body.

The Winklers lived in this house when Matthew was killed (By DoxTxob at the English Wikipedia)
The Winklers lived in this house when Matthew was killed (By DoxTxob at the English Wikipedia)

Mary Winkler and the couple’s three daughters were missing, so authorities issued an Amber Alert. Two days later, police arrested Mary in the parking lot of a Winn-Dixie grocery store in Orange Beach, Alabama. The arresting officers described Mary as “stoic” and having a “blank look on her face.”

Questioned by investigators, Mary said she and her husband had been arguing over money. She claimed not to remember retrieving the shotgun she admitted knowing her husband kept in the house. The next thing she heard, she claimed, was a loud boom.

Mary Winkler on Trial

The State of Tennessee extradited Mary Winkler from Alabama and set her bond at $750,000. At least part of the reason the bond was so high was that she had shot Matthew in the back. Also, he was still alive when she left the house, plus she had disconnected the bedroom phone. With prompt medical attention, he may have survived his wounds.

At the bond hearing, the prosecution claimed that Mary had lost $17,000 in a so-called “Nigerian scam” swindle. During an argument with Matthew over the money, Mary got the shotgun and killed him. Mary contended that, although she wrote the checks and kept the records, she only did what her husband told her to do.

Mary Winkler goes to court flanked by attorney Leslie Ballin (L), investigator Terry Cox, and attorney Steve Farese (R)
Mary Winkler goes to court flanked by attorney Leslie Ballin (L), investigator Terry Cox, and attorney Steve Farese (R)

Mary claimed that she suffered physical, mental, and sexual abuse at Matthew’s hands for years. According to her testimony, Matthew had lately criticized her for the way she walked, ate, and “everything.” She said, “I guess I got to a point and snapped.”

Mary’s trial for first-degree murder began in April 2007. She claimed her husband forced her to wear “slutty” costumes for sex and produced a pair of platform heels and a wig as supposed proof. Apparently, the small-town jury put great stock by this so-called proof because there was an audible gasp in the courtroom. She additionally said she shot her husband accidentally and only retrieved the gun to force Matthew to discuss their problems. However, this was at variance from what she told police immediately after her arrest.

Mary Winkler on the witness stand with the wig and platform heel the jury considered so scandalous.
Mary Winkler on the witness stand with the wig and platform heel the jury considered so scandalous


Incredibly, after eight hours of deliberations, the jury convicted Mary Winkler of voluntary manslaughter instead of murder. On June 8, 2007, a judge sentenced her to a mere 210 days in prison, with credit for the five months she spent in jail before bonding out. The judge allowed her to spend up to 60 days in a mental health facility in Tennessee and was to be on probation for the remainder of the sentence.

Mary Winkler goes on Ophra in 2007 (
Mary Winkler goes on Ophra in 2007 (

This was an incredibly lenient sentence for an incredibly lenient verdict. Regardless of whether her testimony about abuse was true, she shot her husband in the back. Then she left him on the floor to bleed out.

Diane Fanning’s book, The Pastor’s Wife, covers the case (disclaimer: I have not read it).

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7 Replies to “Mary Winkler: Wrist Slap in an Amazing Murder Case”

  1. Of course it was a lite punishment a lady shot a guy let it be other way around it’d be a lot different. I personally hate when judges flirt with one of the people in case. I believe they could improve the court and judge system

  2. Will Mary get her children back to raise? That would not be good.
    Is she going to have to attend therapy for as long as is needed? If she gets her children, this should be a requirement she cannot miss.

    I’m wondering if this case was investigated fully. You should have given more information of the case.

    1. Maybe it’s alright with you the abuse she endured not me !!! She should have not spent one day in jail !! Just because he was a preacher does not give him the right to hit her. Sexually abuse her and on and on !! I don’t know but I pray she got her children back !!!!

      1. Her own daughter testified to no violence in the house except when Mary shot her husband in the back while he was asleep! The bank called Mary that day and told her to bring her husband to discuss the bounced checks or Police would get involved. Even Bambi’s Mother’s hunter didn’t let her suffer! If it was a mistake, why didn’t she call 911? Why did she remove the phone so he couldn’t call for help?

    1. You have absolute ZERO proof of that! In fact, her children told the jury that their father never laid a hand on her without her consent. Mary is a psychopath who killed her hubby in cold blood and got away with it.

  3. I’m NOT Mary Winkler. I made an appointment with Mr. Ballin and was turned away. No one cared about a black woman and her black disabled son, who were and are being forced by the judge to endure abuse. My son is Autistic, nonverbal and requires constant monitoring. This judge and the lawyers were more interested in protecting his family. She has her children back. I don’t.

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